Bomet Governor Joyce Laboso, on Friday, chimed in on the relationship debate which has seen the increased number of young women being victims of brutal murders stating that Ksh4,000 was not enough to make a woman conform to a man's demands.
Speaking at a youth function held at a hotel in Bomet Town, Dr Laboso expressed concern over increased cases of the killing of young and promising women over unfulfilled expectations.
She stated that relationships should not have strings attached with the unwritten rule of reciprocating for gifts.
“So, let us not look at the friendships that we make as investments. You are going to give your girlfriend Ksh4,000. It is not an investment that you are buying her that she now must behave in a certain way.
"Let us find ways and means of delinking what we do with our friends from how we are expecting them to reciprocate," she stated.
The county head called on the society to relook the socialisation culture among the youth
“We are really witnessing very strange phenomena in our country at the moment, particularly on the killings of young ladies. It is really unfortunate, and we cannot understand what is going on with some of our youth.
"We want to encourage them that counseling needs to be done. Families too should come in and try to understand the changes today’s youth are going through,” she added.
Referring to Ivy Wangechi's tragic death, Laboso advised young men not to harm women when frustrated.
"Look at that young, beautiful and wonderful girl we lost in Eldoret the other day. Look at those many beautiful girls (who were killed in the recent past). Young ladies, when you see a partner of yours, a friend, a boyfriend starting to behave in a certain manner that is unlike them before, it is good you run away very quickly," she stated.
She sympathised with men who were habouring alot of expectations from their girlfriends and were in a genuine position not to provide.
“For young men, the society expects a lot from you and we know that sometimes when you are unable to provide; when you are unable to do the things that, maybe, young ladies are expecting (of you), you get frustrated.
"Kindly, vent out that frustration elsewhere rather than thinking that ‘if I cannot get this lady, then I would ensure she dies so that no other man is able to befriend her’," she maintained.
